It’s crazy how sensitive men can only be seen as gay. Gay doesn’t mean anything other than a sexual orientation. I’m transmasculine but I hate how constricting being a man is compared to being a woman and it’s one of the reasons I wish I was a cis woman. People have often been nice to me when I was ‘sensitive’ but I knew that it was only…
It’s crazy how sensitive men can only be seen as gay. Gay doesn’t mean anything other than a sexual orientation. I’m transmasculine but I hate how constricting being a man is compared to being a woman and it’s one of the reasons I wish I was a cis woman. People have often been nice to me when I was ‘sensitive’ but I knew that it was only because they saw me as a girl, which obviously I didn’t like very much. Anyway thanks for the comment.
You're absolutely correct. I should be clear that I'm 41 and none of this was recent, but I'm still seeing the issue you describe, precisely. The ideas packed in with "gay" (when used as a slur) have always been false, and gender role performance for boys has definitely, in my experience, been the way to avoid the bullying that comes along with such a judgment. The thing that really stands out for me is that this bullying all went on in the 90s, in a time where "gay" was the worst thing someone could be called. The ideas of someone's sexuality being fused to their gender role performance go back to before a lot of people hadn't even heard of a trans person yet. I think it's awesome that you are living your truth in spite of the bullshit that comes with the traditionally 'male' construct, and it's just more proof to me that there is no "ideal" way of being a man, which is always a relief to remember. Thanks for your comment!
It’s crazy how sensitive men can only be seen as gay. Gay doesn’t mean anything other than a sexual orientation. I’m transmasculine but I hate how constricting being a man is compared to being a woman and it’s one of the reasons I wish I was a cis woman. People have often been nice to me when I was ‘sensitive’ but I knew that it was only because they saw me as a girl, which obviously I didn’t like very much. Anyway thanks for the comment.
You're absolutely correct. I should be clear that I'm 41 and none of this was recent, but I'm still seeing the issue you describe, precisely. The ideas packed in with "gay" (when used as a slur) have always been false, and gender role performance for boys has definitely, in my experience, been the way to avoid the bullying that comes along with such a judgment. The thing that really stands out for me is that this bullying all went on in the 90s, in a time where "gay" was the worst thing someone could be called. The ideas of someone's sexuality being fused to their gender role performance go back to before a lot of people hadn't even heard of a trans person yet. I think it's awesome that you are living your truth in spite of the bullshit that comes with the traditionally 'male' construct, and it's just more proof to me that there is no "ideal" way of being a man, which is always a relief to remember. Thanks for your comment!