It's also about the tolerance we have for other people. I've seen it referred to even as a sort of "stamina"; the ability to keep returning, trusting, and loving, even through interpersonal conflict, failures, and stress. We need to develop our grit of feeling in order to keep showing up with and fo…
It's also about the tolerance we have for other people. I've seen it referred to even as a sort of "stamina"; the ability to keep returning, trusting, and loving, even through interpersonal conflict, failures, and stress. We need to develop our grit of feeling in order to keep showing up with and for each other.
And while much of that is 100% dependent on other stability in your life, as you write, it's also FASCINATING how wealth and stability don't correlate with greater community engagement or developing the skills needed to be in community. Wealth – even moderate wealth – leads to more isolation, privacy, and a tighter curation on who and what you let through into your life. Even at the simplest unit of being able to drive a car you own or lease (an isolated environment) vs. taking the bus (sharing space with others). As everything drives us to hoard our own resources and rewards our isolation, it becomes a more painful choice to learn how to be with other people.
BIG time yes to all of this. Thank you.
It's also about the tolerance we have for other people. I've seen it referred to even as a sort of "stamina"; the ability to keep returning, trusting, and loving, even through interpersonal conflict, failures, and stress. We need to develop our grit of feeling in order to keep showing up with and for each other.
And while much of that is 100% dependent on other stability in your life, as you write, it's also FASCINATING how wealth and stability don't correlate with greater community engagement or developing the skills needed to be in community. Wealth – even moderate wealth – leads to more isolation, privacy, and a tighter curation on who and what you let through into your life. Even at the simplest unit of being able to drive a car you own or lease (an isolated environment) vs. taking the bus (sharing space with others). As everything drives us to hoard our own resources and rewards our isolation, it becomes a more painful choice to learn how to be with other people.